We all have goals. Starting that business. Losing that weight. Passing that exam. Getting that job. A vast amount of us have goals that require us to make certain changes in our life. Uncomfortable changes usually. To start a business you may have to spend less to put money towards your idea, spend less time focusing on your current 9-5, and sacrifice some of your usual downtime to work towards your dream business. To lose the weight you wanna lose you're gonna have to exercise 4-6 days a week, replace your favorite soda with water, and stop going through the drive through on your way home from work. The changes aren't fun, easy, nor comfortable to us regardless of us being aware that they'll get us closer to our goal.
In my 23 years of life I've witness a vast amount of changes in what we have access to. ESPECIALLY when it comes to technology. When technology became more accessible, so did books (ebooks and kindles) as well as people (Skype, Zoom, ETC). At this point in time if I don't know how to do something all I have to do is to type in "How to ____" on google and get the answer. OR... if I want a video, I could type that same thing into youtube! In 2019 "I didn't know how" or "I didn't know where to start" are no longer valid reasons to keep us from growing or progressing. Because in America at least, the answer is at your fingertips. So the question is why are you still failing? Why haven't you accomplished your goals yet? It's because you're chillin in your failure and subconsciously, you're okay with that.
Let's look at "Jim." Jim woke up this Friday morning 225 lbs. Jim's goal is to get down to 210 lbs. Jim woke up at 7:30, get dressed, and drive to work. On his way to work he stop by the McDonald's 2 minutes away from you job and get your usual: a sausage egg and cheese bagel with a hash brown and a large coffee with 5 creams and 6 sugars. 12:30 rolls around and it's time for your lunch break. He zooms out of the door because he knows the line at Chick-Fil-A during this time is crazy busy. He gets a number 1 combo large with a sweet tea and 3 Chick-Fil-A sauces. He felt victorious when he made it back to work in a timely manner. On his way home he decided that he wanted to pick up everything he need to be in for the night so he decided to run to the liquor store and grab a bottle of Jack Daniels. Then he went to the grocery store and pick up a family sized lasagna you can throw in the oven as well as some cookie dough. The Jack and cookie dough was a reward for himself because you got a lot done at work today and he's exhausted. As he watches tv late that night Jim sees a commercial for some workout program and says "I just don't know why I can't seem to get this weigh off..I probably never will."
Let me tell you a few things about Jim.
1. Jim knows that the way he's living is contributing to the fact that he's not losing weight. Even though he said "I just don't know why I can't get this weight off" He definitely knows that his eating and workout habits aren't getting him any closer to his goal. In fact, its pushing him in the opposite direction
2. Jim is afraid to try to lose weight. Jim's goals will involve him eating and working out differently. Jim doesn't want to go to a gym because its an unfamiliar and uncomfortable environment for him and he might as well not go. Jim doesn't want to cook his own healthier options or eat out healthy because it's foreign territory to him and he knows that McDonald's, Chick-Fil-A, lasagna, Jack Daniels and etc has never disappointed him. Jim is afraid of being uncomfortable
3. Jim is afraid of failing. Jim is afraid of waking up early, changing his routine, eating out less, working out more, drinking less, and implementing other changes to his life. Why is he afraid. He's afraid that once he implements these changes, they'll be in place for a very long time without getting his desired results. He's afraid that he'll work crazy hard to put the time in and still come up short.
4. Jim is okay with failing and has in fact embraced it. Wait. This is the opposite of number 3. How is Jim afraid of failing and okay with failing at the same time? Let me explain. Jim is not 210 like he wants to be. So at this point in time Jim feels like he's failing. Jim is afraid of trying really really hard and still not being 210 lbs. Subconsciously Jim is saying this "Why work hard to try to lose weight and still not get down to 210 lbs when I can do nothing and get the same result?" If you try to tell Jim this he'd probably deny it...that is until he takes a long in the mirror and realizes that it's the truth. Jim is chillin in failure.
A lot of us are doing this. A lot of us are here right now and the reality of the situation is this. If we implement positive changes to help us grow and truly without any doubt believe it is pushing us towards our goal then it will. You can make the change and not believe it will take you anywhere and it probably won't. But when you truly believe that your changes are gonna lead you to success THAT is when you will be successful. So make the changes that you need to make. Give them your all. and Don't be Jim!